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Positive Talk
Another Approach to Controlling Stress
Jun 28, 2007, 11:16

2007 Hodges Seminars International There does not seem to be one method that can be used universally to control the stress in the complex machine that we call a human being. With that in mind, you will see on occasion in this column different methods I have found useful to people with whom I have worked. Just keep in mind that there is no one right way for all of us to eliminate stress, nor is there an easy way to do it.
Give these thoughts a try.
Dont hold things inside you. Anger and frustration can be corrosive to the entire body if you continually hold them in without venting. Find a time and a place to just let go. That time and place may be when you are alone; in fact, that could well be the best time to vent. Just picture the person you wish to tell off and then do it. Put as much energy into it as you can. Even though the person is not there to hear your wrath, you will be surprised how good it feels to get all that poison out of you. On the other hand, it is just as important to get out positive feelings. Saying things to others such as, I like you, or I appreciate you, can release positive feelings and reduce stress.
Find someone with whom to talk. I have always thought the Catholics had a wonderful opportunity to be able to talk things out without fear of those things becoming public. Having a priest who will listen and is sworn to secrecy is a wonderful asset. For the rest of us, we can confide in a close friend. We must remember though that even the closest friend may breach our trust, and we should be careful of what we say. Remember that once a secret leaves your mouth, it is no longer a secret. With that caveat, I still believe that having someone to talk with is a great way to control the effects of stress. One especially nice thing about airing stressful feelings with a friend is that expressing the problem out loud may give you a better chance to find your own answers.
Take a long look at what is causing you to be stressed. Sometimes we can change the situation to eliminate the stress or at least improve the scenario. A friend said that he was starting his day stressed out because he was having trouble catching a particular train. I asked him why he didnt just plan on catching the next one, and his answer was that he had always caught the earlier train. He had no other reason. He now catches the later train and the world is a better place with less stress. Could you reduce your stress by changing some action to get the same desired result?  
Start looking for the good in things rather than the bad. Finding good things brings joy to our hearts and finding bad brings stress, yet many of us spend much of our time looking for the flaws in life. Unless you are paid big money to find the faults in others, give it a rest. For the next week, approach every situation with the idea that you will find the good in it and you will point the good out to others.
I will grant you that there is nothing earthshaking in the above suggestions; but if you will put them to use, you will find that your life will be just a little nicer and, for that matter, all those around you will be having a better day. I wish you a great day!
Bill  Hodges is a nationally recognized speaker, trainer, and syndicated columnist. Hodges may be reached at Hodges Seminars International, P.O. Box 89033, Tampa, FL 33689-0400. Phone 813/641-0816.
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